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Hi everyone, I am a 36 years in age. I do need your advice pls. no abuses pls be matured!
I am in a 3 years romantic relationship with a lady who happens to have 2 kids from a failed marriage that affected her life backwardly. Having felt her pains from the fail of her marriage to a very terrible man who has decided to keep her as a sex slave. He ( Ex husband) eventualy left home living her to cater for the kids after trying very hard to have her packing which she didnt do for fear that her kids would suffer, she even developed High blood pressure at a young age of 30, I picked up the weight to help her become better , healthier and see that the kids attends school too, I have been the one handling all the financial needs of her and the kids, I love her so much and would do anything to make her happy. I pay the rents and feeding and sponsoring her nursing school as we speak. All this so that she wouldnt have to live a wayward life due to pressure. The problem is that, she seem to attract men ( married ) every where she is, men who would always seek to have their ways with her ( though she's been rejecting their advances cos she love me and she wouldnt do such to hurt me ) but she seem to also make encouraging moves that attact them the more.

Some how jealous, I have tried to make her see reasons to correct her dress sence and relative ways arround men to avoid this moves but when ever i do this, she feels untrusted and we just argue bitterly. and I fear living her cos i love her. I feel that, knowing i am a jealous guy and do love her so much and wouldnt want her to be hurt, she would always use this to get to me. wen she offends me, she would always say words like " if u know you cant trust me then live me, or is it becos you are helping me? that she has suffered in the hands of a man before and now she would treat us well. This word stabs me in the heart cos i would never treat her as such and i have never complained on the help i render even if its hard somtimes on me. Ifeel she just dont love me, may be the money? but right now I feel like living her. but if I did, how would she cope? will she not fall victim to same men? would i not be a bad man to her kids? But i am been killed slowly emotionaly and its just not fun any more. she is sturbon and treats me just a like a Aristo- though profess to be all in for me too.

would'nt it matter that i did this despite all the sexual engagements we had. will it not look like i just wanted to have my way and bail? cos now I am afraid I may turn out to loose her in the end after having spent a fortune on her and her kids.
Should i still continue or close my eyes and live.



Comments:

~ 6 years ago walterk15 said:
hey man (pack and leave)
man, please do all you can to leave that lady, if she cant respect you, just pack yourself and bag and leave, she is only using use and don' t give a hoot about you. Never ever deny yourself anything on this earth because of a woman, only if she is a blood or you have no intention to have anything with her. if not you surely will spend the rest of life regretting it . If you have siblings and parents please spend that money/fortune on them, It will be a wiser and better thing to do in your life. She sees you as a helper or someone to run to for assistance and shares no love with you, just free her and let her be, what she will become is left for her to decide and not you.
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~ 6 years ago apprehended said:
Hahahaha
Dude ur crazy.. gerrout!!! If no be say u begged not to be abused heh.. i for even abuse ur forefathers for having craziness in ur blood. Piece of knowledge heh.. tht somebody, hahaha, u dey worship go leave u run.. fool u be mooogunnn hahahaha
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~ 6 years ago daveson2020 said:
Hmm
This is bad sign but a jealous lover is a big problem, you have to change yourself first.
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~ 6 years ago gogoman said:
HI
You' re a low esteem control freak!! so because you help her, must u date her? must u? listen free the lady, let her do whatever she wanted .. she not your slave
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~ 6 years ago jorandy007 said:
CALL HER BLUFF
Stupid people around here that can' t even give an advice without first insulting .....as if they have a perfect life themselves..mtceeeeww . Guy ...she thinks because men are chasing her, she can threaten you with it. I think you should call her bluff and see her reaction. You have to be strong about it, I suggest you leave the house in anger for a few days when next she does her threat thing. If she apologizes and show remorse then know she is still interested, but if she becomes angry and start insulting you.....END THE RELATIONSHIP and move on.
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~ 6 years ago EDDYPRINCE said:
Guy
You better run, coz if u force yourself on her she will rubbish you. So my advice is pack your tins and run
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~ 6 years ago texasman said:
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Gogoman, that' s very wrong of u. Back to the issue at hand, my man, you gotta decide what you wanna do, you can either stay or walk away. But if I was in your shoe, I will walk cuz she' s not loyal. But still your decision tho
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