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How To "Get Closer" to Your Partner, Spouse or Lover...
Something I"ve noticed......

After working with thousands of men, women and couples on how to
create closer, more passionate and more connected relationships
something very tragic is going on....

What"s worse is that it doesn"t have to be this way.

What I"ve noticed is that almost everyone who has relationship
challenges waits until it"s almost too late before they START looking
for someone (or something) to help them get their relationship or
marriage back on track.

Take, for example, the cable technician who came to house office to
fix some cable TV and internet issues we were having the other day...

He was a classic case of what I am talking about.

When he was here, he noticed that it was the middle of the day, I
didn"t appear to be retired and he asked me what I did for a living.

I told him I was a relationship coaches and he commented that he
"tried a couple therapy sessions" in the past but it was a case of
irreconcilable differences and he and his previous wife ended up
splitting up.
I asked him if he thought at the time he went to counseling
whether he thought there was still a chance that the two of them
would stay together...or not.

The cable guy told me that they waited too long before they got
help and then he quickly refocused on our internet problem.

The tragic thing is that the signs of a relationship fading are
ALWAYS there if you pay attention.


If you find yourself thinking or saying anything like....

"I wish I could get him or her to______________"

"I wish we could get things back the way they were when we were
first together"
"I wish he (or she) paid as much attention to me the way it used
to be"

"I wish she (or he) made me feel important"


"I wish he (or she) would listen, truly listen, to me"

...or anything else you catch yourself thinking, wishing or hoping
about your relationship...


When you find that your thinking OR saying anything like any
of the examples we just gave, you can know that you are treading
on dangerous ground in your relationship.

For most people, the trouble is that they don"t notice the changes
in the relationship when things are starting to drift off course before
it"s too late.

For other people, they notice when things start to fade but
choose to ignore what"s going on or what happens with other
people is they erroneously believe that things will somehow
miraculously fix themselves.

How To "Get Closer" to Your Partner, Spouse or Lover...

If you"re finding that the passion, connection, trust, desire,
communication or anything else you want in your relationship is lacking,
In the meantime, what can you do if you notice that you are drifting
apart and your relationship hasn"t "gotten back" to the way it used to
be or what you want in a very long time?
Here are a few ideas...

1. Pay attention

It"s true that there can be an ebb and flow to relationships--
sometimes you feel more connected and loving to each other
than other times.

We"re not talking about that.

We"re talking about ignoring the flashing warning signs that
keep going off and doing something about them before it"s
too late.

We got a call yesterday from a man who knew that he had
to do something about his jealousy and wanted to buy our
No More Jealousy program at http://www.NoMoreJealousy.com/Program
because his wife was threatening to leave him.

Contrast that guy with another man who was in a fairly new
relationship and saw the warning signs early that he was
starting his jealousy pattern again with this new partner
as he did in a previous marriage.

He acted and started his road to healing before jealousy
became an insurmountable problem for him in this new
relationship.


2. Get help

Whether you sign up for any of our free courses or
reports, buy our programs or other experts" program,
attend our workshop or choose to work with a therapist
or with us as your coaches...

Take action now.

Even if your partner doesn"t want to have anything to do
with the course, free report, therapy or coaching sessions...

Work on yourself because even one person working on
themselves in a relationship can have a profound effect
on positive changes happening between two people.

3. Know that it"s possible to move past stalemate, distance
and antagonism and turn it into love, understanding and
peace.

One of our coaching clients saw what was happening
in her relationship with her husband (constant arguments
and fighting) and decided to work with us to get closer to
him the way they used to be.

After a few sessions, she started seeing signs that he was
coming toward her with more love when she stopped her
part in their arguments.

She saw that it was possible for them to get closer to
one another and started focusing her attention on those
times.

Just knowing that it was possible to move past a lot of
what separated them (she could see the evidence of it)
kept her motivated to keep up the positive changes.

So our invitation to you is to recognize before it"s too
late if your relationship takes a turn for the worse--and
take some action to make positive changes in your life.

All our best to you


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