Login With Facebook Or Please Join Naijapals! or Login << Back to confessions Confession I just have a few questions that are bothering me. I met this guy through his mother. Actually the mom is my mom's friend. She collected my number from me and gave to her son. We have been communicating for going to two years now. He wants to marry me. He will be 31 yr old and I will be 21 this year . He is nice matured and very comfortable and he really pets me. I have been avoiding him since we started communication, not wanting to meet him, because I told him am not ready to marry cos am young and still in school and my course (law) is very hectic for marraige and motherhood. He told me I wouldn't have to worry that he will make me comfortable anywhere and in any situation. He has been very persistent. Never shown his anger when I don't respond or disappoint our appointment. I finally met him this Christmas and I like him very much, because of the way we have known since. He is proud to show me to all his family and big bosses and rich friends too. They all are even looking forward to the meet me. My mum likes him too. But he stopped at sec school then entered business before he made it. Though he said he is still going to go to uni. My worry is am I too young to marry?..is he too old for me? And not going to the University is it a problem? I don't want to make a mistake because am too young and it would pain me cos I was young but I don't also want to loose a good man because I think am too young..(.i don't know if anyone can relate to this feeling ). Please I need advice especially from married people immediately because I think he wants to propose to me. Comments:~ 5 years ago
eddymoore said: Prayer No man or woman can offer any meaningful or concrete advice regarding marriage regardless of how long they have been married or council marriage couples. God says " cast your burden unto me and I will give you rest" only Him knows your tomorrow and what is best for you. So go to him in prayer. Best of luck! 2 likes ~ 5 years ago
apprehended said: Hahaha goat I am 21, hes 31, i am very scared, his mother asked me for my number and gave it to him, we communicated, he likes me, he wants to propose to me, he dropped out of school, am too young to marry, am doing law and its very hectic, he is matured, he is confortable, he pets me, i met his rich friends, they like me, he is filty rich too. HOW ABOUT THIS.. GET A LIFE! no likes ~ 5 years ago
apprehended said: Hahaha @eddymore, i totally disagree with tht insight aiigt. Again, am sure we both can agree tht God is Lord, and Jesus is Son of the Almighty, Almighty is Lord.. the Creator and Doer of all things, On earth we hav churches, mosques and other places of worship.. God delegated (or shall i say ordained true helpers called Man) Man to represent Him on earth to fulfill and extend to His fellowship tht He is living and see all things. My point God uses Man to move mountains. Thank me later. no likes ~ 5 years ago
Exayvia said: I agree I agree with @eddymoore. I just recently got married last month, I am 31. Truth be told even I felt I was too young to get married and that has been my reason for being too afraid to ask God for the woman meant for me. I felt I need to still make money and maybe flex life a little more. But when I began to commit to God and ask him to direct me....here I am, a married man. He made everything work towards the marriage and right now I do not have any regrets. when it comes to marriage, NO ONE not your mom, not your dad, your pastor, your friend or sibbling can give you the right formula or direct you on who and when to marry. Its strictly between you and God. He is the only one that can tell you if its the right time to marry or wait a bit more. What you should do is go on a fast for about 3weeks (6-12 daily, if you cant go too long). I did the same thing. Pray everyday and ask God for guidance, tell him if this is not the man or if this is not the right time, let there be something to scatter the relationship. Dont be afraid to say this prayer, I did it myself and yet things went into marriage in the end. So only God can tell you what to do. Even this your guy being all nice....only God can show you if truly his heart is good or he is simply pretending. Ask God. Just do it and chat me up if possible. Best of luck. no likes ~ 5 years ago
wizzprinse said: hello dear i will want to first of all start by saying i reactivated my account because i wanted to add a little something too. others have advised you to pray, i support their assertions please do that but let me answer the questions , you ask first of all, you are not too young to marry, you may be naive , inexperienced but definitely not too young secondly he is not too old for you, you might not feel comfortable with the age differences but trust me , you are already enjoying the benefits as you say he always pet and pamper you, although on the issue of anger, marriage is different as he will certainly get angry once in a while, and you might begin to see the other side of the age gap but not to worry, no marriage is a bed of rose thirdly on him not going to the university, known this, it is not a problem to him but you so you are in the best position to answer that, as only you know how you feel about that, and let me tell you, that feeling is not going away anytime soon not even marriage will take it away, and the feeling will become worse if his business go down , so you have to make up your mind on that and the tendency that he will go is 30/100% do the maths my advice is this pray hard don' t marry him out of pity, or because you don' t want to hurt your mom, or because he has money, or because he took your innocence, or because he is handsome, or what ever reason you give yourself, marry him for who he is, consider your happiness, look at all the fears you have about him, and imagine if you can cope with it if it gets worse good luck and God speed no likes ~ 5 years ago
Ecosystem98 said: some things work for some and don't work for others. @Exayvia, your tactics of prayer might not work for another. Congrats on your marriage. Back to the question. My dear, WHAT DO YOU WANT? GO FOR IT. if you want to finish school and be comfortable to marry someone who also went to school but have no money, or someone who may be aged 28 while you are aged 25, yet has no money, or maybe you are a working class and you are well paid, and he does not work yet still within the same age, and other circumstances, THE CHOICE IS YOURS. As long as this world is concerned, Fear of the unknown is already an assertion that we are alive. But it is rather ridiculous to live in fear. You cannot have everything you want. Most girls who marry too early at your age, get tired of their man at the age(s) or 23-26, when they see fresh fine boys in town. My answer to you is what do you want? If you liked being pet, then marry him but know that it may or may not last. If you marry at his age, you so promise that on the long run, you will not be driven by lust for young blood of your age on the long run. WHAT DO YOU WANT? The choice is only yours to make. no likes ~ 5 years ago
apprehended said: Hhaaaaaaa Wht tha heck be all these hahaha, i swear una all get time to write all these sonsocalabash. Well na una sabi.. chop knuckle. no likes Add CommentPlease Login To Add Comment<< Back to confessions Write a confession |
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