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I am a 28 years single mom of 4kids(2 boys and 2gurls). I'll go straight to my point.. I met this guy sometime last year during my divorce and right now the guys is deeply in love with me.. I say he and not we because for me I'm on and off with moods swings and anger and pain from the previous relationship.. So I'm not 100percent certain of how I feel but I sincerely like the guy.. My fear is why will a young man of 32 be so much in love with me? I've done everything to chase him away, sometimes I keep offence over little things deliberately to scare him off, sometimes I got mood swings, sometimes I really love him and sometimes I ask him to leave but he's insistent that I am the woman for him.. He's not just said this to me countlessly but he has shown it.. The way he loves me I have never ever seen, he's introduced me to his siblings and I met some of them.. He's parents knows about how much he's willing to go with me and they are expecting me to visit them soon.. He's always interested in my growth and wants me to achieve a lot.. He's so so so so so proud of me, never fails to show me off to the world..Hes support me in his little way and with prayers.. He keeps telling me how he wants to prove to me that there are still good and faithful men out there and with the help of God he will make me happy.. He's patient, caring and just too nice to me, so nice that I wonder if I even deserve this.. He making plans, good plans, was ready to relocate me to the states but I refused cos I wasn't ready to leave my kids.. I've asked him,what will happen if his parents finds out about my previous status.. His answer dazed me.. He said first he doesn't want anyone to know and so that no one discourages him or insults me or disrespect me and he's more concerned about me and wants to make sure I get total respect from his ppl.. He said and he's willing to pay only my dowry and skip the traditional party to avoid hearsay and then we both can relocate and stay far away to avoid gossip and if his parents finally get to hear about my past, then we'd be far gone in the marriage and who knows I'll have a baby for him then...
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Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I’ve been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn’t the demanding type.

When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.

She was just mute and calm about it. She didn’t even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn’t compulsory, she doesn’t have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came… She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine… Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off..

She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn’t upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.

Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.

She doesn’t have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn’t upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It’s always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.

She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don’t exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn’t need to display me online to know she is married to me.

On my birthday, she didn’t wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.

Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won’t find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.

The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn’t demanding or greedy…

But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that’s all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions..

I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV)…. She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to beh
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I don’t know why .
I don’t want to marry her and I don’t want her to be With another man, I find myself upset each time I see her with another, I will be so angry and sometimes I go as far as causing problems once I see she is in a relationship or I see any man around her . I don’t know if I love her but I don’t think I want to marry or date her . I just want her to be with me alone , maybe as a best friend but why do I get angry.
We are not dating, we are just friends and I don’t feel anything for her, I want to be in her life but yet I want to be out, I have a girlfriend but she is not angry when I am with her but I am angry when she is with them . My body is paining me from the last work out
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Okay so I have this amazing boyfriend living abroad that has been nothing short of a dream. He takes care of me, sends me money regularly and he's just been there, my pillar and my rock while I, on the other hand is still in school. My question is this, how do you be the 'perfect' lady for this kind of man? These days I feel sad cos I bring nothing to the table. Don't get me wrong, I am intelligent, I talk to him everyday even with the crazy time difference, I make him laugh and I listen to him but I feel like that's not enough. What more can I bring to the table to show I appreciate him. I can't send him money, I don't even have enough myself as I am not working yet, I can't give him mind blowing sex, he's far away. Please what can I give to make it balanced? Should I send him prayers everyday? Should I send appreciative messages once in a week? What should I do abeg, this man deserves it and more.

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Teenage marriage is better than fornication.
Proof me wrong!
#Note: Not child marriage!
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