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Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I’ve been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn’t the demanding type.

When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.

She was just mute and calm about it. She didn’t even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn’t compulsory, she doesn’t have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came… She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine… Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off..

She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn’t upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.

Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.

She doesn’t have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn’t upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It’s always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.

She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don’t exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn’t need to display me online to know she is married to me.

On my birthday, she didn’t wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.

Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won’t find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.

The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn’t demanding or greedy…

But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that’s all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions..

I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV)…. She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to beh


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~ 2 months ago EDDYPRINCE said:
Quickly,your wife love you,but she ts sill feeling u where not her choice of man,hence trying to keep u off her friends, but just relax coz with time she will be d one all over you, for now continue to do wat u are doing ok.....
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~ 2 months ago EDDYPRINCE said:
Quickly,your wife love you,but she ts sill feeling u where not her choice of man,hence trying to keep u off her friends, but just relax coz with time she will be d one all over you, for now continue to do wat u are doing ok...
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~ 2 months ago EDDYPRINCE said:
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~ 2 months ago Ufuoma_ said:
Looks like your marriage is arrange by both of your parents. You know those kind of marriage were parents force their daughters to marry a man they are not in love with. Am sure that’s what happening in your marriage. You two need serious marriage counseling. Your wife dont love you at all!!!! judging by what you wrote up there, you irritate her.
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~ 2 months ago Ecosystem98 said:
In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far
She may have been one of those who bragged about her would-be kinda man in her youthful age(s) you said she married late. Though, you may not have been her ideal man, but she just have to live with you disappointed... Well, I had a r/ship which lasted 3years and is still on, I never posted my friend on any media, let alone go publicly with her, but we both know we are intimate friends even though the gal was ever willing top post my pictures online... In her case, she may be my type... To us, it may be that we are not that proud of you, or that we are a jealous lover and want it privately, but the love should be your utmost priority. SUMMARY Apart from social media and gifts, you have a lovely family. I think that should be your priority. Live that woman alone...cuddled her as the man...with time... you tell another story version.
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~ 2 months ago SweetDaddy1 said:
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Who told you that at over 30 years a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage, if that is your thinking why don' t you marry a woman of the age you would call hopeful and young for marriage. Most married men and women who put themselves on social media just to show off always end with destroying their marriage. You are lucky to have a lovely independent woman who want to keep her marriage private and not for public gossip discussion, the social media is a gossip forum. You said you love her and I am sure she love you more. As a man all you need is a happy home to have a happy family.
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~ 2 months ago apprehended said:
Hmm na garri pass water for this one, no lie. Wetin i won say be say na her ways be tht na. Imagine a misguided wife acting lik a sick goat hahaha, big problem. Umm i think tho she love u but whteva we still gon play her, guy u gon strategize, test her love for u, make non caring moves, lik dnt give a heck for her presence, jus be lik u dum fool i got u hahaha, purposely forget things u know she cares abt. Fact, some women are not meant to be cradled, they deserve nothing pleasant, these kinda women wld celebrate only wht matters to them. Yes i talk am.. show her confused and questionable love, i promise she go tak style make amend, she go say- dear wht hav i done na, suddenly ur attitude changed. For ur mind u go say- u never seen anything yet.. thunda go soon begin firing u hahahaha.
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