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I am a married woman and I got married in January this year. My husband wants to build a house for his mother but he is refusing to do it to my mother. I told him to build for both mothers but he's not happy. He told me that if it's like that then this marriage is not going anywhere.
Before our marriage he was saying that he wasn't ready to get married because he wants to build a house for his mother first. I told him that he can still build even when we are married because I thought he would take long to marry me. He was sourcing for money to build his mother a house because she's renting. I was in support and I am still in support.
The problem is he is not considering that my mother also needs a house just because she is not renting.
My sisters are also complaining about his behaviour. I thought he has to build houses for both parents because we are no longer dating. We are married. How is my family going to look at me watching my man buying a plot and build for his mother and put my mother on hold? It's not like I am not in support but building a house for his mother and doing nothing to my mother is what surprises me. He is saying the money he has only caters for one house. Why can't he divide it?
I am thinking maybe I just forced him into this marriage. What do you think? How can I deal with this situation please advise me.

Comments:

~ 4 weeks ago garira6 said:
Mr.
Your husband is right for two reasons: a] It is the best approach to start by building a house for the mother who hasn' t it at all. Your mouther should be considered later. We are talking of shelter here which is a basic need for everyone. Your mother has shelter already. b] Your husband told you about his plan to build his mother a house before you got married.
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~ 4 weeks ago garira6 said:
Mr.
Your husband is right for two reasons: a] It is the best approach to start by building a house for the mother who hasn' t it at all. Your mouther should be considered later. We are talking of shelter here which is a basic need for everyone. Your mother has shelter already. b] Your husband told you about his plan to build his mother a house before you got married.
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~ 4 weeks ago WEATHERMAN702 said:
Mrs Greedy
Don' t destroy your marriage with impatience and mad greed. First off, you were told about this project before marriage. You said no, he should marry you First and build the house later. Now you are married, man wants to build for his mother, you came again to say he must build for your mother simultaneously. Madam don' t allow his mother to curse you o. Better check yourself, only witches act the way you are behaving. Wicked and greedy people every where.
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~ 3 weeks ago walterk15 said:
Hi
So let me start by asking you a question, lets assume your brother who was wholeheartedly trained by all the pennies of your mom is married to one lady and he wants to build a house for your mom with the little he has, then the lady says no, he must build simultaneously with her mom, how will you react? 2. what is your financial, mental and physical contribution to this mans life apart from being married to him ? 3. did you train him, or did your parents train him? did you create the avenue by which he is making his money? what right have you apart from he loves you and married to you, if you take these two things out, what is the valuable contribution of you and any of your entire family in his life? if you can' t give any tangible answer to those questions, better you support him quickly to finish the house for his parent and then if he wants he will start for your mom, remember it is if he wants, or better still since your parents also did work to bring you up, dust whatever skill you have acquired and go use it to make money and build for your parents. while you enjoy your marriage. Finally are there no men in your family to build houses for your mom, why should it be somebody' s else son, if there are no men are there no daughters who can go and work? let them go make the money and go build for your own mom. This man' s parents have raised him and invested outrightly on him, so they have the right to enjoy there works. so sister enjoy your marriage and contribute as much as you can, plead with him if he can assist, but you have no right whatsoever to compel him to do anything for your parents because they did train him. let your brothers become men and help build for your mom.
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~ 2 weeks ago Paulevery said:
My kind advice on this issue is,
First point : you are his wife and you have every conjugal right to discuss with your spouse on what you desire.

Second point: he his trying to be selfish without granting you your request and you should file a case for him in court .

Third point.. : Since he have the money to build a house for his mother he should also have the money to cater for your mother building and stop being self centered towards your siblings
Finally
With this few points of mine
A advise you file a divorce case towards this marriage for managing a self centered hubby..
And move on with your life...
Thanks...
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~ 2 weeks ago apprehended said:
Hahahahaha goat
Get lost u ungrateful ingredient, first who cares if u married or not, for all I know u deserve nothing, I suggest u never bring such useless matter here again, u no get sense
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~ 6 days ago chanst said:
Can you listen to yourself.. ?
Don' t you know you' re married to a new home which automatically becomes yours as well. If you insist on building for your mum. Contribute 80% of the resources and let your man argument to build for your mum
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